According to Burchard, we fall into three categories:
The one living in the Caged Life asks, Will I survive? So the focus is always on whether or not I will be safe or be hurt.
The one living the Comfortable Life asks, Will I be accepted and succeed? So the focus is on belonging and satiation.
The one living the Charged Life wonders, Am I living my truth and actualizing my potential? Am I living an inspired life and inspiring others?
I'm living the Charged Life, most days (there are occasional days when the past haunts me and I falter into the Comfortable Life).
The Charged Life usually calls to us after we have done what we were supposed to do, become who we thought we were supposed to be, lived as we thought we were supposed to live.
Although I never thought of the title "Charged Life," that lifestyle for me did come through breaking through the past. In my late twenties, I had to decide what I believe and what I want for me. I cannot be caged, and I don't like to be too comfortable, so I began to seek after inspiration by dabbling in creativity and chasing butterflies whenever possible. Over time, I shed layer upon layer of the shoulds and found my own, my very own, musts.
When we live the Charged Life, we don't worry about making waves; we worry about doing what's right and what's meaningful. If controversy or hurt feelings happen along the way, we meet them with our full presence and care – but we march on.
I read the above quote to my people-pleasing teen yesterday. A couple of boys have been unkind to her recently, but she worries so much over keeping everyone happy that she is on the verge of not choosing what is right - to keep those boys at arm's length, not allowing them to be unkind anymore.
People are not born Chargers. It's easy to think, "Oh, I can't do that. I'm not like her. I'm not creative. I'm not that talented."
[Chargers] consistently practice being conscious of their reactions and realities. Theywork for their charges, and they know they have to.
How can you start living the Charged Life? My suggestion is to chase after everything and anything that inspires you, without fear. When I get stuck, I create lists of what inspire me, like:
- learn how to use a spinning wheel
- grow cut flowers
- keep chickens
- spend one-on-one time with the children
- have a weekly date with my husband
As you can see, not everything is expensive or impossible. In fact, inexpensive things are usually most inspiring to me. Spending a lot of money makes me feel "caged," probably because I always have to pay the piper in the end.
In The Charge, Burchard spends two-thirds of the book on how you, too, can live a Charged Life. It's possible for anyone.
What inspires you? Off the top of your head, what five things would be on your inspiration list?
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